I could not remember the chronological orders of these criticisms and insults. So I will just post them as I remember them. Here goes:

She said I have emotional issues. She said I’m weak. She said, healthy men do not cry unless someone has died or if they have lost all their money. 

Now. I don’t know why my girlfriend would even tell her mom about me crying, because it wasn’t a good way to make her mom likes me. There were several times when I cried in my girlfriend’s presence:

In May 2010, Jan 2011, a day before she was about to fly back, we both cried because we didn’t want to leave each other. I loved her, and she loved me, and we both wanted to spend more time together.

In Jun 2011, we had a fight. I finally cried because I realized I was wrong.. and how much I hurt her because of my actions and words. I felt regret. Also, there was also an unsettling feeling in me because her words did not sound like hers.

Other than that, I really don’t cry so much. I didn’t cry when there was death in my family. Or my pets. But I am not afraid to cry. To me, crying is not gender, age, race, personality specific. It is not a sign of weakness, but rather an ability. It is also a way for some people to reduce stress, to express joy, and to release anger. I cry because I face dilemmas in life. I am willing to show my emotions to my close ones, and I am brave enough to handle my sorrows instead of burying them deep inside of me.

Anne, you are the love of my life.

“Don’t make someone a priority in your life when you’re only an option in theirs.”

Was I only an option in your life? I was told I wasn’t. But I bet I was.

If you have read my “About” page, you would know that I created this blog because of a life changing event.

Basically, I was in a long distance relationship with my best friend. After we had been together for 18 months, I visited her family for the first time. Her mother hated me. After meeting her, she kept sending my girlfriend hate mails about me when my girlfriend went back with me to my city for a vacation.

These hate mails over-stressed my girlfriend, and it continued after she went back home. She decided that she could not be with me.. even though she didn’t agree with her mother’s assessment of me.

I have read those hate mails. All of them. My girlfriend thought she only showed me a couple of them.. but in fact I read all of them when I was playing dumb while using her phone, saying things like “How to you navigate this” and “How do I get out of this email.”

Also, I have near photographic memory and damn near remember everything I have read.. The words of her mother resides in me. So here, I will let them go. I will type them out, and give my rebuttal.

“What you see is a guy who never measured a man’s success by the size of his wallet!” – Carl Fox

“This is Sol. He’s really quiet so he won’t be bothering you anytime soon.”

That’s how I was introduced to this new coworker. Despite that introduction, I became pretty close to that coworker and would hang out with him, much more often than I did with anyone else in the office.

Why do people feel like pointing out the seemingly obvious.. and doing so in such a light manner? Is it funny? Does it do anyone any good? Is it an attempt at humour?

Well. It’s not funny to me.

Let me try your method.

“Hey, this is Wendy. She’s like 300 lbs so you’d better get out of her way.”

“This is Shannon. She has a funny accent. Every time she speaks, I still have to ask her to repeat everything she said twice to make out what she’s saying.”

See what I mean? Why point out the obvious like it’s something smart to say? Introverted or quiet people have feelings too.